Set Yourself Free

Most of the time I sit down to write these posts out, I really don't have a direction I want to go in.  For some of you I may be wasting your time, others may need to hear what is being said.  However this gives me a chance to help others in a positive way.  I know that not everyone will have the same fears and or anxiety that I may have, but if you can offer a glimmer of hope to someone that may be struggling with their own battles then why shy away from it?  Many times I sit here and wonder if this blog is even making a difference in other's lives.  When I share the post it appears to not do well, however you all cannot see what I can.  The fact of the matter is that this little blog that I started has reached individuals in 10 different countries.  Now some of you may look at me in a different light because of this blog, but I don't mind.  My hope with these writings is that you will grow to love who you are and don't worry so much about what everyone else thinks of you.  Recently I had been called fat one too many times and thus that sparked something inside of me that has helped me to lose around 20 pounds in two months.  I found that people could say whatever they wanted to me and I at the time thought I could just take it and move on with my day.  I used to be able to do so, but now I hold onto those words like they are badges, not badges of honor but badges of time lost and wasted.  I wasted my time in thinking about those words over and over again and I started to believe them.  So I would look at myself in the mirror and say that well you are looking a little plump today.  Yea people may look at me and say that "oh you are not fat", but I was to myself, I saw myself in a different light as everyone else.  Another part of myself that I wish I could change is that I feel as if I am not well like, I don't really have many people that I would call close friends.  I see others and all of their adventures on Facebook and I wonder why I can't be surrounded by people like that.  A lot of times I feel like I do not fit in with the group and or people just look at me and brush me off. Then I realize that I am awesome just the way that I am.  I shouldn't have to change who I am to make people like me more, I am only cheating myself out of who I have become.  I say all of this to give you some hope.  Set yourself free from your negative thoughts, put your mind at ease and know that you are who you are for a reason.  You are exactly as you were made to be, don't be afraid to struggle.  Having struggle in our lives teaches us to become stronger, stronger with who we are and what we can accomplish.

So for today, set yourself free from one thought that has been plaguing you.  If you look in the mirror and do not see yourself in a certain light, then know that you are perfect just the way you are.  Do not let others and their words get you down.  Do not be afraid to be the you that has been created.  I know that these words may be easy to read and many of you may say "sure it is easy for you to say", but you can do it.  You have a great destiny laid out in front of you.You are exactly who you need to be in order to accomplish anything you set your mind to do.  Set yourself free from those negative thoughts that may consume you, stand up and take a stand for you!  Look at yourself and envision where you want to be in life.  If we start to have more positive thoughts that surround us the better our outlook and determination will be.  Do not let people get you down, do not let words get you down, be you.  Change has to start within, you cannot wait for others to change.  In order to get moving in the right direction, it is going to take you to take a step out of your box that you are in and move forward in life.  You shouldn't have to live your life behind the walls you have built up around you. Tear that wall down brick by brick and see who you really are, you are someone who is amazing and it takes a change to embrace that fact.

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  1. Betty Moore-BellMarch 20, 2018 at 3:02 AM

    You are such an encourager, Matt. Thank you for your honesty and transparency.

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