Those who come against you

Most of the time I write these, I am just staring at the screen as if the words will just appear.  A lot of times I feel like I am just going to repeat myself and not make any sense with what I am trying to get across.  However here we are, with words on a screen that can help provide a little bit of hope.  When I was, we took these quizzes in school that had characterized what type of job you were going to have when you grew up.  I know that they are simply just for fun and at that age I think we all wanted to be several things.  But there was an answer one time that I had never seen before and it just so happened that I got it (yay me! *Sarcasm).  The answer on the quiz said that I was going to either be a pilot or a bus driver.  I was cool with either one really, I thought it was awesome that I got an answer that no one else had received before.  However when I shared my answer with everyone, they proceeded to laugh at me.  They teased me because a little piece of paper said that I was going to be a bus driver.  Now I humble enough to realize now that being a bus driver is and can be pretty cool, it is a stable job and you can pay your bills from it.  However at the time I was embarrassed, I thought that all of those kids (who I have no idea where most of them are now) have made me feel so small.  I felt so small that I just wanted to hide and run away because on the inside I was hurting, I was so embarrassed that I did not want to ever speak in front of the class again.  Another time I was in high school and I was in a creative writing class.  I should preface this story by saying that I was not an outsider in high school, most people knew me and were friendly towards me and vice versa.  However this class made me experience something that I hadn't felt since I was in elementary school.  These kids (I don't know what ever happened to them either, funny how they made an impact on my life and they are gone now) always made me feel like my writing was dumb.  I think that is where some of my hesitation comes from when writing this blog actually.  I promise I'm getting to the point of all of this, but they made fun of me and told me that all I wrote about was my dad and soccer and that I was boring.  Well I challenge you to look at the title of the post and hang onto this, those who come against you can either alter your path or take you off of it completely.  Those who come against you can do this if you give them the power to do so.  If we give people the power over our self esteem then we are never going to get anywhere.  We are going to stay where we are and or retract.  At times it may seem as if they are correct in what they are saying about you, but trust me you are not those words that are coming out of their mouth.  You are much more than they can ever imagine.

For today, don't let your path be swayed by someone who is trying to bring you down.  That person is not going to suffer from what they have said to you, but you may hold onto those words forever.  Quite frankly that is not fair, why should they just be able to let go and not think about their remarks while you pick up the pieces?  Don't give them the power, don't give them the pleasure of that in which they seek.  They are not there to better you but to only hinder you.  Why would we want to stay where we are now when we can move forward and grow.  If someone tells you that you are not good enough for something or puts you down for what you do, just put that negative comment aside and know that you are worth every second of the day.  You are not what their words dictate, you have a bigger and better future in store for yourself.  If you let the negative statements steal your dreams then you are never going to get out of where you are now.  Those people will not give those comments a second thought, they are going to go about their day and not think about it again.  However you may not, you may hold onto that pain or words for years to come (just like I have), however we have to learn to not let people who come against us have the power to alter us.  We have to be strong with ourselves and overcome the burdens we face.

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